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Why Are We Alone

A lot of people asks the same question when they start having a vision of themselves in their future, when they are probably prone to peer pressure, when their parents' expectations influence where they are going, or when achievements occupy their minds as the very essence of being successful.

Many people are successful, but not all of them are really happy. In fact, most people who are there are lonely. And what's worst is that they are empty inside. They are successful but there is something missing.

I can only offer an explanation by resorting to Theology, and discussing a little about the concept of sin and how it relates to the human condition. The Bible says that all people are sinners. And in Hamartiology, the general concept of sin is something that separates us from our relationship with God, and our relationship with other people.


We are lonely because we have broken relationships. When we were a child, our parents probably broken us enough to hate them, and we started changing our views on what a family should be. Maybe our parents did not approve of the craft we have taken that they show disdain for it when all we wanted was to make them proud. Or, probably we have succumbed to peer pressure that we forgot what we really are and wore a mask just to belong.

As we grow up, these broken relationships become our broken pieces. We probably look back with regret, because we never had what we should have had. Parents who decided to have children should be responsible enough to raise them properly, after all. Then, we started to blame. We started to hate, and it motivates us to do things we might regret later.

When we are lonely, we try very hard enough to find happiness, and sometimes, our search end up in unfamiliar places. And instead of finding true happiness, we find ourselves indulging in temporary happiness.

As teens, we will probably look for a relationship at school. Because when we do not get the love from our family, we will find it elsewhere because that's what we are as humans. We are social beings and we need to relate. And in the middle of these relationships are premarital sex. And premarital sex leads to teen pregnancy that might lead to abortion.

The problem with this is that teen relationships mean that we are not mature enough to enter into one. Most of these are just motivated by sexual attraction, and it will lead to breakups later on. Because we are looking for happiness, these breakups, these abortions, hurt us even more. It amplifies the fact that we are lonely. That we are alone. And this sometimes lead to suicide cases.

I always say that when we have broken relationships we should strive to do better in school, go to a university and become very successful because we deserve it. Don't search for temporary happiness because when we do better in life, we tend to be pointed to the right crowd. And if our parents are not what we wanted them to be, then at least thank them for not aborting us.

Because when we are alone before that, we can only find a fruitful relationship with God. God will never leave us. God will not forsake us. And God is never a temporary happiness.

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